Brad Blanton’s 3-Step Exercise

I recently received and finished the 8 CD audio version of Radical Honesty, the New Revised Edition. In it, Brad mentions a three-step exercise to getting over anger and resentment. Here’s what I remember from it. (I’m not gonna go to the CD and fetch it… as I am a lazyass.)

1.) Imagine yourself having the conversation with whom you resent. Open up. Speak out loud. Get to the point and tell all. Imagine how they’d react and what they’d say. Make believe. Roleplay.

2.) Call this person up and setup a meet. It’s important. Personally, I find it astonishing how much courage it can take to say the simple 6-word phrase, “I need to talk to you.”

3.) Forgive. Let go. Be merry.

The funny part about all this is that after Brad mentioned the exercise, he says something like, “If you didn’t do those last three exercises… you’re a coward.” Love this guy.

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After all the reading I’ve done over the years (constant audio books, two hours of a driving per day for 3 years… the equivalent of well over 2000 hours of study or several university semesters — not including the time I’d spend reading, studying, and practicing outside of the car), I’ve come to find that you can replace anger/ resentment with any other emotion. This is simply an exercise on how to be direct with others and let go.

COMMUNICATE!

As with every successful relationship I’ve forged (best friends, nonromantic, business, and musical), it’s been on the basis of Truth. A totally different level of communication. One that can breathe. Loving the human prototype. The being without any prejudgments. Who they are. What they are. As they are.

Honesty builds the foundation of Trust, which builds the foundation for Respect. Tell the truth. Keep it up.

-Teddie Be

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